It was the worst day of my life when I found out that my husband had been cheating on me. I knew it was true the moment I saw the text message on his phone. My heart sank as I thought about all the years of trust and loyalty that he had betrayed.
For a moment I felt that I had no choice but to forgive him. But then the anger and hurt started to bubble up inside of me, and suddenly I knew that there was no way I could let this slide.
My husband had the nerve to suggest that I should apologize to him for finding out about his infidelity. He said that I had invaded his privacy and that I should be sorry for uncovering his secret.
I was livid. I was not the one who had broken the marriage vows, and yet he was asking me to take the blame? How ridiculous was that? I refused to cave in and kept my head high. He had no right to ask me to apologize.
This is not a situation that can be solved with an apology. Trust needs to be rebuilt and that takes time. My husband needs to realize that this is a two way street and he needs to understand that he needs to change his ways if he wants to win my trust back.
As painful as it is, I have to be strong and stay firm in my position. I deserve better and I shouldn’t settle for anything less. I will not apologize for finding out the truth, and I will not allow myself to be taken advantage of. It’s time I take back the power in this relationship.
